10 Anal Sex Positions That Make Butt Play Way Hotter
Let’s get one thing out of the way: Men aren’t the only ones who enjoy anal sex. I’m a sex educator, and I’ve come across plenty of women who love anal play. Of course, not every woman is going to be into it (I can’t think of any sex act that’s a universal turn-on). But many women are here for it, and some can even have full-on anal orgasms. With the right position and a few helpful pointers, you could be one of them!
If it’s your first time, note: You can warm up with your fingers, lube is your absolute best friend and it’s important not to forget about aftercare (hygiene is important, people!).
Okay, ready to get to the really fun stuff? Let these positions be your anal sex to-do list.
Also, worth noting: For consistency’s sake, all of the instructions assume you’re being penetrated by your partner. But that doesn’t mean you can’t try a strap-on and reverse roles!
This position is perfect for people who are relatively new to anal sex because it’s easy to pull off (but still hot).
Try it: Have your partner sit on a chair. With your back to him or her, slide down.
Spooning was basically made for anal sex — it gives the person in the big spoon position total control over the depth and intensity of thrusting. And, if it’s your first time, laying calmly in your partner’s embrace will help you feel more relaxed.
Try it: Take two pillows, and place them under your hips for extra lift — this will help position your body to make penetration a bit more comfortable. Have your partner enter you from behind, either on their knees or on their side — whichever feels best. Since this position is hands-free, it gives your partner the opportunity to do what they will to stimulate other parts of your body.
This is a great position for shallow penetration — which you should definitely try if you haven’t already. Most of the nerves in the anus are in the first two inches of the opening, so this is a great way to get that stimulation.
Try it: Lie on your stomach, and have your partner lie directly on top on of you, entering from behind. Have him or her balance on their elbows for optimal comfort.
Anal sex positions are often a face-away-from-each-other kind of deal, but this one allows you and your partner to get some eye- in during sex.
Try it: Have your partner enter you from the missionary position. Keep your knees pressed against his or her side to control how deep they go, putting your hands on his or her chest for extra resistance. You can also add a pillow underneath the receiving partner’s hips to get the pelvis in the perfect place for penetration.
Lean In Cowgirl
Anal sex in the cowgirl position is especially hot because it gives the person on top all of the control.
Try it: Straddle your partner, and slowly slide yourself down at your own pace. Lean forward, placing both hands on your partner’s shoulder — and you can even lean in to make out if you’re feeling it.
Reverse Cowgirl ’n’ Lean
Reverse cowgirl is basically the most overrated vaginal sex position ever. In the anal sex world, however, this position is amazing because the person on top gets to control depth and thrusting pattern with relative ease.
Try it: Have your partner lie on his or her back. Straddle him or her backwards and slide down at your leisure. Have your partner stimulate your clit, while you offer them a ultra-sexy view of your backside.
Lotus is touted as one of the most intimate and romantic positions there is. Here, you’re as close to your partner as possible, and get some eye- time that can be oh-so-hot.
Try it: Have your partner sit on the bed or couch. Climb on top of his or her lap. Slide down so you’re face-to-face. You’ll get all the intensity of anal sex combined with all the eroticism of the lotus position.
Tilted Doggy Style
Doggy style is the classic anal sex position for a reason: It’s perfect for deep penetration, and you can arch your back for even deeper thrusts, which can help target that infamous A-spot.
Try it: Get on all fours, and have your partner enter you from behind. From here, your partner can easily stroke your nipples or clitoris, too.
Standing Straight Doggy
This is a great position for your partner to kiss (bite?) your neck and shoulders during doggy. You can also mix things up by bending over into a forward fold.
Try it: Stand with your back to your partner, pressing yourself entirely against his or her body. Have him or her enter you from behind. For added romance, have him or her wrap their arms around you — caressing your breasts. This is also a great time to break out that trusty vibe for some added clit stimulation.
Upside Down Pretzel
Calling all anal veterans! If you’re a gal who loves deep penetration, this is a must-try.
Try it: While on your back, bring your legs up to both shoulders, hooking your hands behind your knees. Have your partner enter you from above, using his or her hands to balance above you.
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