Ariana Grande’s “Thank U, Next” Is Changing The Way Women Think About Their Exes

We're so grateful for our exes


By Michelle October |

Ariana Grande’s latest single, “Thank U, Next”, released a few days ago, has already amassed a slew of  garnering over 1.5 million tweets in mere hours.

But there is another big conversation to be had: the way it’s influencing a different look at relationships of the past. Google “break-up songs” and you’ll likely end up with angry, heavy songs, singing about being better off, trashing said ex and being irreplaceable. There’s anger, malice and spite in the heartbreak.

It comes with no surprise, then, that Grande chose to address her very public splits from rapper Big Sean, backup dancer Ricky Alvarez, SNL host Pete Davidson and late rapper Mac Miller in a song, singling them out by name. What is surprising is the way she’s chosen to deviate from the vitriolic nature of break-up songs and go with something different: “Thank U, Next” is a light, upbeat, saccharine tune – not hating, but genuinely thanking her exes.

“I’ve loved and I’ve lost /

But that’s not what I see /

So, look what I got /

Look what you taught me”

“I’ve loved and I’ve lost / But that’s not what I see / So, look what I got / Look what you taught me” Grande trills, choosing to honour her relationships as avenues of personal growth, even in the face of public heartache. Her mature approach has inspired analyses and praise on Twitter, with women strongly relating to her message.

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We’re inspired to see the positives

ariana really had the audacity to name drop all of her exes and THANK them for teaching her things to help her learn to love herself and see the positives in hard situations. she did things other girls wish they could do but alas can not…. her power is moving.

— ! (@swiftlaurent)

We’re overcoming anxiety

ariana gave us a bop about overcoming tragedy, a sexually liberating female empowering record, a song about overcoming anxiety, and an empowering break-up anthem. all in one year. had her caring foot on our necks all year.

— ➿ (@problemthots)

We’re empowered

a track about empowerment? i’m all here for it! i love you so much, your energy right now is AMAZING ma’am

— juli (@willfulariana)

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But Grande’s positive energy took a little helping (and time). She revealed to a fan in a tweet, saying that she’s been working with a therapist. She also strongly encouraged fans to seek professional help – something not often spoken about when it comes break-ups.

lmaoaoo this is funny as fuck but in all honesty therapy has saved my life so many times. if you’re afraid to ask for help, don’t be. u don’t have to be in constant pain & u can process trauma. i’ve got a lot of work to do but it’s a start to even be aware that it’s possible. 🖤

— Ariana Grande (@ArianaGrande)

Recognising heartbreak as a form of trauma and approaching her painful past with gratitude (and a healthy helping of irreverence) is a message we haven’t heard enough of – and judging from the overwhelming response to the song, the internet agrees.

In the end, self-care is the message.

all this self love on my tl got me smilin. i love seein your beautiful faces.

— Ariana Grande (@ArianaGrande)

Listen to the song here:

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